How To Build A You That Lasts
Every January, we set big, shiny resolutions.
“Lose 20 pounds.”
“Run a marathon."
“Get stronger.”
What do all of these have in common? They’re outcomes. The final result of a process that requires time, effort, and strategy.
But that’s exactly where most people get stuck.
We chase the outcome, without ever considering the process required to get there. But achieving any meaningful outcome requires you to change the behaviors, beliefs, and identity behind it.
If you want 2026 to look different, you can’t just write down a different goal. You have to grow into a different version of yourself.
Start with these questions:
What are my values? Write down what is most important to you. Not what you think should matter, or what other people think should matter. Values drive your “why.”
Who do I identify as? How do you see yourself? Someone who’s capable? Disciplined? Growing? Your identity shapes the standards you hold yourself to.
Do my actions align with my values and identity? Are your daily choices supporting the person you want to become… or reflecting an identity you’re ready to let go of?
When your values, identity, and actions are aligned, the results you’re chasing will no longer feel out of reach.
They will no longer feel fragile, like a house of cards ready to fall at your first slip up.
And they will no longer depend how motivated you feel in the moment.
So this year, instead of setting a bigger target, set a stronger foundation.
Instead of thinking about what you want to accomplish, think about how you want to show up differently this time.
And instead of focusing on the outcome, focus on who you want to become in the process.